Phoniness is Ruining Social Interaction

Chase WohrleSports EditorAs humans, the communication of true thoughts and intentions is necessary. Without it, people would never truly grasp what others think; in a sense, they would be blind to their surroundings.It is this commitment to being genuine that has become less prevalent today, and it is relationships that suffer as a result. In situations where people are depended on, the person who must do something for the other may feel that they cannot, or they just don’t want to. As coworkers John and Frank have had a mutually beneficial relationship, doing small favors for each other when asked. While they aren't necessarily best buds, they are far from strangers or enemies. John has asked Frank to help him remove the weeds from his front lawn. Frank must then decide whether he wants to help John or not. Frank's situation a better predicament to be in, he can then be upfront and honest about not wanting to help or lie a. He considers lying because he loathes yard-work but also does not want to offend John. Frank chooses to say that he cannot help John because of his grass allergy, as he still wants to maintain his relationship with John in the future. With Frank's integrity damaged by his lie, he can then continue to lie in order to maintain the appearance of his integrity or suffer his image and come clean to John in order to repair his integrity.Ironically, had Frank made his true intentions known, he would not be placed in another situation like the one he had tried to avoid. Here begins the cycle of deception. But this is common, as there is always an excuse or a lie for a person to fall back on, partially because lying is easy, and differentiating truth from lie is not. Lying is the ultimate savior, as a correctly executed lie can excuse and exempt a person from anything that they choose because they create the lie and thus control its greatness. Guilt and sometimes remorse arise from this intentionally frayed communication. However, the negative stigma of these emotions is without effect, as people are more likely to repeat their actions and begin forming a habit. Even the recognition of a habit of not being upfront and honest isn't enough to inspire change within an individual. When it is paired with the human desire to trust and be trusted, the result becomes a communicative mess with unrecognized emotions and the potential to ruin the relationship.Despite this damage to human interaction, a solution does exist. It is not one-sided or simple. Ultimately, it comes down to honest communication. People should have no reservations about communicating their true thoughts. Additionally, a person's word must be a binding contract, and one that is not easily broken.cwohrle@thesamohi.com